Cyril
Alexander Clark, fondly known as Uncle Cyril to many, left us on October 24 at
the ripe old age of 94. Married to Terese Fernandez, they have two children,
two grand-daughters and four great-grandchildren.
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| Cyril Clark with our eldest sister, Ruby, at staff quarters, Kota Tinggi Hospital |
For
a start, both our fathers worked as Hospital Assistants with the Johor Bahru
General Hospital (now known as Hospital Sultanah Aminah).
But
even before Linda and I were born, our fathers already had a relationship, not
only as work colleagues but as friends since Uncle Cyril was still a bachelor.
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| Facade of the Johor Bahru General Hospital, circa 1946 |
This
property no longer exists as it was acquired by the Government and the land is
now part of the Jalan Tun Abdul Razak expressway while only a small portion of our
driveway still remained.
Until
recently, this space was occupied by an enterprising warung operator
next to a gigantic advertising pylon, planted there. After the warung
had relocated and the shady tree was felled, what is left is only a small, triangle
piece of land.
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| Uncle Cyril holding Ruby at the staff quarters, Kota Tinggi Hospital, circa 1954 |
In
those days, while most of the shophouses operated various businesses on the
ground floor, the upstairs were mainly for residential use. As a bachelor,
Uncle Cyril became a friend of the family when he was one of the tenants,
upstairs at No. 155, a next-door-neighbour to our grandfather’s house.
Uncle
Cyril was about the same age as our Uncle Roland, grandfather’s eldest son, and
around the same time, both of them joined the Johor Bahru General Hospital and
were trained as Hospital Assistants.
My
parents – dad, a Hospital Assistant and mum, a Midwife – were already working
with the Johor Bahru General Hospital and when they joined the Health section
of the Hospital, my parents were posted to work with the Kota Tinggi Hospital.
Incidentally,
Uncle Cyril was also posted to the Kota Tinggi Hospital where staff were
provided with quarters to live within the hospital compound. My mum told me
that Uncle Cyril’s quarters was located opposite their quarters in Kota Tinggi.
When
our eldest sister, Ruby, was born in 1954, she was an adorable toddler and my mum
recalled that their colleagues enjoyed playing with her. Besides the attendant,
Maniam, who liked to carry her, Ruby was also a favourite of Uncle Cyril.
Precious
photo mementoes of Uncle Cyril with Ruby, captured a long time ago at the
hospital quarters in Kota Tinggi, are treasured among my dad’s collection of old
photographs.
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| Staff quarters at Jalan Dato Wilson was flooded on one Christmas Day, circa 1950s |
Around
this time, Uncle Cyril was also transferred back to work with the Johor Bahru
General Hospital and this was where he met with the lovely Terese Fernandez who
was then a Stenographer with the Administrative section of the Hospital.
For
the uninformed, a Stenographer or Steno in short, is one who is skilled in
writing in shorthand – an abbreviated form of handwriting – and typing out a
transcription of the oral dictation.
In
those days, Stenos like Auntie Terry who worked with Government Departments,
had to pass exams taken every year, in order to receive an annual increment in salary.
By the way, Auntie was proficient in shorthand, both in English and Malay.
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| Wedding photo of Mr & Mrs Cyril A. Clark |
So
in 1956, my parents were among the happy recipients of a copy of Uncle Cyril
and Auntie Terry’s wedding photo. I saw this precious photo among the
collection of wedding photos my parents received, along with some old newspaper
cuttings of wedding photos, as it was then a trend to announce marriages in the
newspapers.
Linda’s
family and our family were among the families who lived in the hospital
quarters of the Johor Bahru General Hospital until such time when our parents
bought their own homes in residential areas.
When
our family moved to Larkin Gardens, Linda’s family shifted to Melodies Gardens.
However, not long after we stayed in Larkin, my parents were transferred to
work with a Health Sub-Centre and was based in Masai for some 13 years.
Meanwhile,
Uncle Cyril continued to work in the Johor Bahru General Hospital where he
developed a strong reputation with a career in the Operating Theatre.
I
can recall, since Primary School, seeing Uncle Cyril picking Linda up from
school in his White Volkswagen (Registration MB 4099). By the way, my dad’s VW
was in Blue, registration number, JB 6655!
In
Secondary School, we had to pair-up for Home Science class. Linda and I were
partners for this class where we divided the kitchen tasks between us but I was
always happy to do the washing up.
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| Linda and I with the late, great MJ on our visit to the waxworks exhibition |
It
was a bygone era – long before the age of email and social media – where the
Postman was my favourite man-in-uniform because he was the one who brought me
mail from friends and family, near and far, by what we now call, snail-mail.
Ahead
of the Christmas season, my dad would send Christmas cards by post to a list of
people that included Uncle Cyril and Auntie Terry. Likewise, Uncle Cyril would
send us Christmas cards and his was always among the first to be received every
year.
Uncle
had a lovely singing voice and made a reputation for himself and Johor when he
joined the Talentime, a singing contest held by Radio & Television
Singapore (RTS), that was telecast live on Singapore national television.
We
watched this exciting telecast in Johor Bahru with much pride and I cannot
forget how the host introduced Uncle as the ‘Singing Ben Casey’ after a doctor
character, Ben Casey, from a popular American TV series (1961 to 1966).
His
most memorable success in the Talentime was when Uncle was placed among the top
three singers. The prize was a wristwatch and Uncle picked a lady’s version
because he wanted to present it as a gift to his dear wife, Auntie Terry.
Uncle
Cyril was not only familiar with our extended family but was also aware of my interest
in writing Letters to the Editor. You see, Uncle and my dad were old-school
people who enjoyed reading the hardcopy, broadsheet daily newspapers and Uncle
often read my contributions about current issues on the Editors page.
When
Uncle Cyril read my response to a feature about caring for the elderly in a
piece titled, Spare a thought for your elderly relatives, published in
The New Straits Times on 5 June 1997, he recognized my writing style and guessed
the writer was me.
Because
he was not familiar with my Chinese name, Uncle checked with Linda to confirm if
I was the writer. And Linda confirmed with Uncle that the writer was indeed,
me!
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| Steamboat dinner with Uncle Cyril, Auntie Terry, my parents and our eldest sister, Ruby, in 2011 |
After
their retirement, our parents would meet socially to renew their acquaintance
and reminisce about mutual friends. Among the most memorable times we spent
together was over a steamboat dinner in 2011 where my sister, Ruby, joined us.
Another
time was the Thanksgiving Dinner we hosted in October 2012 to jointly celebrate
our parents – dad’s 90th and mum’s 80th – birthdays, a
grand reunion where Uncle Cyril and family met with former colleagues and members
of grandfather’s family who were familiar with him since their Jalan Ngee Heng
days.
From
time to time, Linda and I shared updates about our parents’ health as it was a
major concern particularly during the global pandemic years. Thankfully, our
elderly folks were kept safe throughout the pandemic.
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| Uncle Cyril, when we met at the neighbourhood shop in Jult 2021 |
Family
and friends, familiar with Uncle Cyril and Aunty Terry, are aware that they
were a loving couple, often seen together and simply quite inseparable.
When
Aunty Terry deteriorated in health and had mobility issues, Uncle patiently
cared for her to the point when it was necessary to engage a carer to lend an
extra pair of hands at home.
Aunty
Terry was admitted to hospital several times, with the most recent when she
suffered a serious bout of pneumonia. Upon her discharge, her health
deteriorated further and had to be fed through a Ryles tube.
On
September 21, Uncle was rushed to the hospital and placed in Intensive Care to
monitor his blood condition as his platelet count was dangerously low. This was
due to Dengue fever and when he gradually recovered, Uncle was moved to the
General Ward for infectious diseases.
While
his condition was stable, Uncle took a turn for the worse when he suffered a serious
lung infection which resulted in breathing difficulties. Upon the doctor’s
advice, Linda informed her family members who were based in the UK and
Australia, to make travel plans to come back soon.
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| At the funeral for Uncle Cyril |
When
I joined their relatives, former colleagues and friends, gathered to support
the family in an emotional send-off, I met with Uncle’s former colleagues in
the Operating Theatre of the Johor Bahru General Hospital.
Retired
Nursing Sister Harjit Kaur and OT Nurse Diana Lim had their fair share of
anecdotes as they reminisced about working with Uncle in the OT which was then
located on the ground floor of the main building.
“Cyril
was a gem who promoted goodwill and understanding among all of us,” said Dr
Maria Fernandez, fondly called Dr Merlin of the Asia Medical Group, as she
recalled the time when she was with the Johor Bahru General Hospital.
“He
was always smiling in spite of the heavy workload and never complained,” she
continued, “Sometimes we had to be in the OT for 12 hours at a stretch but the
only one who never grumbled was Cyril.”
Dr
Merlin explained that at that time, there was only one Government hospital in
Johor so all the serious medical cases in districts like Batu Pahat, Muar,
Mersing, were all sent to the Johor Bahru General Hospital.
From
meeting well-wishers at the wake, we learnt more about how much they
appreciated Uncle’s kindness in helping their elderly at home with medical
treatments like changing dressings for wounds or giving them insulin
injections.
It
then occurred to Linda that her dad’s time in helping others with their elders’
home-care was probably why he used to arrive late to pick her from school or
was the reason why she waited in the car while he attended to them.
As
Uncle was diagnosed with Dengue fever, the family decided to get Auntie’s blood
tested too, to see if she was also infected and to give her the necessary
treatment.
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| At the funeral for Auntie Terry |
That
night, Auntie was admitted to hospital and she passed peacefully on November 1,
just days after her beloved husband had left.
As
we grieved with the family, we were encouraged that they had done their best to
make Uncle and Auntie comfortable and had cared for them in their twilight
years.
We
take comfort in knowing that Uncle and Auntie, who were inseparable in life and
apart only for a few days, have gone to a better place – together again, as
always.
May you rest together in eternal peace, Uncle Cyril and Auntie Terry. God Bless.
